THE GIFT OF GETTING LOST
Loss, regardless of the confusion and pain can also be a catalyst for growth, resilience, and deeper understanding; it can also foster empathy and compassion, personal growth and maturity, and community and connection. One of my good friends, a choral music college professor once did a wonderful lecture on gratitude and how important it is to be thankful for all things–not only the happy, easy, comfortable things, but also the difficult, embarrassing, and painful things that occur in the course of our lives. I’ve spent a considerable amount of time reminding myself of his words and find myself not only thinking of my gratefulness but rejoicing in the life-changing experiences that resulted.
Though I started piano lessons when I was 8, I played clarinet from sixth grade through junior college, and l loved it! When I went to Chico State as a junior, I planned to continue on with it. However, when I discovered that the band met on the football field from 3-5 pm and it was 110 degrees, I had the awakening that I didn’t have to be out in the heat and that I could sing! And the rest is history. It totally changed my life. I didn’t have any idea how much it would change my life but it was a very good change, and even though it never occurred to me that I would choose choral music over clarinet and band, that’s exactly what I did! And the rehearsal room for the a cappella choir was air-conditioned! 🙂
While loss of possessions is certainly frustrating, loss of human senses can be difficult, and loss of friends and family members can be very painful whether through separation (moving apart) or death. Grieving is complex and multifaceted, and everyone experiences it uniquely. While the frustration, difficulty, and pain are undeniable, the journey through those emotions can also lead to unexpected growth, joy, and transformation.
Prayer: Thank you, God, for creation, for changes we did not expect, our beautiful valley, our church family, our diverse country and the diversity of the world, our ancestors and their challenges, those who have chosen to teach us, make music for us and with us, and for those who care for our health and safely and respond when we need help and for all things not listed here. Amen
Jan Lanterman